Tororo man shared bed with two wives

The New Vision Online : Tororo man shared bed with two wives

http://www.newvision.co.ug/PA/8/13/731560

By Moses Nampala

WHEN Owor Alele married a second wife last year, he did not buy another mattress. Instead, he decided to share the same three by six feet mattress with both women. Owor did not have a bed.

Each night the mattress was spread on the floor of the only bedroom and they slept across it so that the upper parts of their bodies were on the mattress while the legs were on a banana fibre mat.

Owor slept in the middle, his first wife Margaret Ajwang on one side and the new one, Jennipher Akello, on the other.

This went on from April to October 2009 when Mifumi, a women’s rights NGO intervened, saying it was domestic violence. With the help of Police, Owor was forced to find a house for Akello. He has settled with her and abandoned Ajwang, whom he married in 1979. Ajwang, like any rural woman in eastern Uganda, had psychologically prepared herself for the possibility of a co-wife, but she never imagined that they would share a bed. “It was such a nasty experience. You wouldn’t wish it upon any other woman,” she said.

She dreaded the nights but having been married for 31 years, she stayed. Besides, her siblings would not have welcomed her back because culturally it was considered an abomination for a woman to leave her husband and go back to her parents’ home.

Nyakadere LC1 chairperson David Oboth said: “The rivaling women would seek my intervention almost regularly, until the elder wife revealed the what she was going through.” Oboth tried in vain to advise Owor to get separate homes for his wives.

The Mufumi officer in charge of domestic violence, Grace Lwanga, said when Ajwang broke the silence during fellowship for victims of domestic violence, she swung into action.

“We advised him to construct or rent a separate house for his new bride or face arrest,” recalls Lwanga. Alere then rented Akello a house at Paya trading centre, where he runs a malwa (local brew) pub.

Tororo central police station’s officer in charge of the family and child protection unit, Sofi Nambala, said: “We issued a stern warning to Alere never to indulge in such abusive behaviour again, or he would face the law.” But Owor has no regrets. “I loved my wife until five years ago when she started taking alcohol. Months would pass without finding a meal at home. She did not even wash my clothes.” He also accused Ajwang of having extra-marital affairs, which she denied.

The couple has four daughters, three of whom are married. The youngest lives with her mother.

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One in four gives fake net names

People are nearly as likely to be web criminals as to be victims of them.More than a quarter of people online have lied about their name and more than one in five has done something online they regret, says a new report.

The behavioural and psychological impacts of online life are outlined in a report from the security firm Norton.The report suggests that two-thirds of web users have been hit by cybercrime, with the costs and time to resolve the crime varying widely around the world.

But a large amount of online dishonesty came from the respondents themselves.

Seventeen per cent of respondents to Norton's survey had lied online about their age or where they lived, while 9% lied about their financial or relationship status and 7% about their appearance.

The study, "Norton Cybercrime Report: The Human Impact", reveals telling details not only about the proportion of web users struck by cybercrime, but the disparity among countries as to the costs to each cybercrime victim.

In the UK, 59% of respondents had been victimised; on average, the respondents' "most recent experience with cybercrime" required 25 days to resolve, at a cost to them of $153 (£99).

While the corresponding resolution times in Brazil and India were significantly higher at 43 and 44 days respectively, the costs were vastly different. Brazil had the highest cost among the countries surveyed at $1408 (£907), while in India it was just $114 (£73).

Sweden had the quickest average resolution time, at just nine days and an average cost of $178.

Double standard. More telling perhaps were the attitudes of survey respondents with regard to the ethics of their own behaviour.

Many felt it was "legal" to download a music track, album, or film without paying (17%, 14% and 15% respectively), while 17% viewed plagiarism as an acceptable practice. Nearly a third had e-mailed or posted pictures of someone else without permission, and a quarter had secretly viewed someone else's browsing history.

Orla Cox, a security operations manager for Symantec, told BBC News she was unsurprised by the survey's findings on respondents' honesty. "A lot of people, while they want to get information about other people on the web, they themselves would like to remain somewhat anonymous, to hide some of their own information so as to be not too easily identifiable on the web," she said.

"I don't think it's always a bad thing but certainly people are trying to create a whole different identity for themselves for nefarious purposes."

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